Most people desire true love, but never know it takes sacrifice, pain, and selflessness to give, take and maintain true love. Some complain their partners do not give enough to maintain their relationships, but could not ask themselves, “am I giving enough for my relationship, or what does it cost me to have true love”. This is the month of love, if you desire true love, reflect on this.
Some people anticipate being loved, pampered, and showered with gifts when in love, without considering their giveaways when in love. You want your partner or potential partner to give you whatever you want at all times, but do you think of what you will give to get or take what you want? An undeniable fact about true love is sacrifice; sacrificing some part of what you have to get what you want. Sometimes you sacrifice your time to get the attention you want, you give your material possessions to make your lover happy and other times you give in a part of your happiness to gain back your happiness.
This is difficult, isn’t it? Well, some people may be wondering and some others may say it’s true. Well, if you are one of the people who are wondering if sacrifice makes love works, let me ask you this question. Have you ever thought of what your parents lost to give birth to you? Do you know the sacrifices your parents had to make to raise you up to become who you are today? It took true love and sacrifice for your parents to raise you to become the man or the woman you are today, and it took them sacrifices to have you.
Fast forward, do you know some couples who you can say truly love each other and that their relationship is worth emulating? If yes I edge you, go and have a conversation with them. Ask the man, the woman, or both: what their sacrifices are for their relationship? It will be more revealing to you that it has taken them sacrifices. In fact, some wives had to give up their dream jobs to make their relationship work; and some men had to give up a project or an aspiration to raise their families. Some couples desire to have good things in life, and sometimes the man must sacrifice day and night for them to accomplish that dream. Sometimes a man or a woman must sacrifice pleasure to help the other to accomplish his/her higher dreams and more. Hence, if you desire true love, you must be ready to sacrifice for it. If you can’t sacrifice for love, you can’t get it; it is about compromise, and it is mostly ‘give and take’. Do you love enough to sacrifice for the love you want?
Moreover, there is a popular adage that says: “No pain no gain” and this is true with a true love relationship. A lady told a story about the initial stages of their relationship. After they got married she realized that she had a tumor in her head and needed an operation to remove it. Most nights when in pain, her husband was also having sleepless nights with her. The husband supported her through tin and raised the money for her operation. Another example a husband who was diagnosed with prostate cancer and had to go through surgery and throughout the process, the woman, was running home to hospital and back until the man was discharged. In the two instances do you think only the sick had or felt the pain? No; this is the truth: in every true love, lovers share their pains. Remember “for better and for worse”. In fact, do you think these couples might leave to tell their stories, if they had refused to share their pains, will they come out together?
The truth is some men neglect their wives when they are going through pain and some women neglect their husbands when they lost their jobs. I must say such men and women are parasites pretending to be in love. They are fair-weather lovers who are not true lovers, who only show their pretentious love when things are going well with you. Of a truth, “Love is an emotional expression; a passion of affection and sometimes it feels or turns into pain. Why; because your object of love goes through pain; and if your love is true, you go through pain also.” Therefore, partners who do not feel the pains of the other do not love enough. When you are loved, you feel the affection thus, when your partner is in pain, you should show compassion and demonstrate that you care, don’t be a fair-weather lover. For this, I know and I had experienced it before.
One enemy of true love is selfishness. Selfish people only think of what they will get and never border to think of what they will give. I made a statement before, which I think is worth stating here: “In our world today many think of what they will receive from others and never think of what they will give and that, takers are more than givers.” Honestly, because of selfishness, many can’t get true love and some who had it lost it. Many women today give untenable conditions to potential partners without considering what they must give to contract a good relationship. Some men also refuse to compromise and lost very loving partners and chase the wind forever. This is also, I must say one of the reasons there are many divorces today.
Human life is full of sacrifices. At home, somebody must sacrifice to keep the family. You might be working now in a private company; somebody had to sacrifice day and night to establish that company for you to get your job. Some communities are flourishing than others because community leaders had to selflessly think about the common good and rally people together to achieve that. Thus, for every good thing you desire, including true love, you must be ready to give in a part of you to receive what you want. Thus, if you only think of what you want in a relationship, you can’t love enough, and that if you want a true relationship, be ready to give enough to receive enough.
Finally, I know some who gave their all to have true love, but their relationship did not work. If you are in that category, I must tell you, you are not a loser, your purported partner might not be ready to sacrifice for the relationship; he/she was not feeling your pain; he might just love what he/she could get from the relation and that he/she might be self-centered and selfish. In this month of love, if you desire true love, understand that it takes sacrifices, pain, and selflessness to give, take and maintain it. Best wishes to you in your love relationship.
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