Three things that give and preserve happiness: “Knowing God; Self-acceptance; and Good People”; but the greatest of all which I think everybody must know is “Knowing God”.
Talking about God in today’s world is like fiction to many, but I believe God exists and He rewards those who believe in Him with abundant grace; including joy and happiness, even in very challenging moments. Since knowing God, I realize that when situations become very difficult and stressful, and I read the word of God and pray, am comforted and my hope is restored. Thus, the word of God, for that matter God is my greatest source of happiness and its preservation. In fact, God has never disappointed me before.
A Psalmist says “Your words, they comfort me.” In fact, Psalm 121: 5 says “The Lord is your keeper; the Lord is your shade at your right hand. And with Him, verse 6 says: “The sun shall not strike you by day, nor the moon by night.” And verse 8 says: “The Lord shall preserve your going out and coming in from this time forth, and even forevermore.” Thus if this is the God we serve, then, He should and He must be our greatest source of happiness. He can preserve your happiness if you can “count your blessings and make them one by one”. One thing my knowledge of God has helped me to discern is that His words are true; “yes and amen”. His words are not fake like some other minds will want to make us believe. Hence, always let the word of God be your first source of inspiration and your first source of preserving your happiness. That, if you don’t know Him, discover and seek Him.
The second thing as I noted is “Self-acceptance”. Knowing who you are and being able to accept and appreciate yourself at all times, despite what people say about you. One thing I will not denier anywhere is the fact that “everybody needs somebody”. But, if you don’t learn to know, appreciate, and accept yourself when people disappoint you or run you down, you will lose your self-happiness. If you don’t learn to accept and appreciate yourself, when you have a disappointing relationship, it will take much of your happiness away. Or, when people call your look or your appearance to question, you will lose your self-happiness. Above all, you must know how to make yourself happy. This is one of my secrets to making myself happy. “I like taking selfie-pictures” and I do admire myself so much when I look at my own pictures. In fact, am quite photogenic and this is my plus; hope you understand. And when taking pictures I always try to pose well to take my best looks.
In addition, I have a mental picture of myself and my age brackets. So even, if I don’t look at myself in a mirror, I know my look. My look and age are in my mind, and I don’t allow anybody to determine them for me. Don’t get me wrong, I know things people hold about and against me or my purported flaws. One of them is “my long head.” But hey, that is not my problem. And do you know how am able to overcome people’s meanness about my head? Well, this is it: “My long head has given me enough capacity for knowledge accumulation and storage.” Thus, to me, ‘the form of my head’ is an asset rather than a liability. Hahaha! I know you are laughing. Now, to accept and be happy with yourself, learn to know your strengths and weaknesses. Appreciate your personality strengths and learn to create fun of the purported personality defects or imperfections people use against you. Hence, this year learn to appreciate who you are and let no bad mouth take away your happiness.
Thirdly, as I noted in the second phase of the discussion “everybody needs somebody” which is why nobody is an island. Nevertheless, one thing I have learned about life is that most people look forward to drawing or take from others. In fact, that is why “takers are more than givers.” People who want others to make them happy are more than people who are ready to make others happy. That is why some people don’t care about making others sad or breaking other’s hearts in other to be happy with themselves. However, one thing I discover in life is that good people treat others as they desire to be treated, it is even biblical. Note: a good man will feel sorry for breaking a lady’s heart and a good lady will feel sorry for disappointing a man. On the other hand, a good friend will learn to know what makes you happy and try to help you build up and maintain your happiness. However, self-centered people will only try to satisfy themselves to your detriment. This is the problem of many relationships which I also had had my share or call it my dividend; hahaha!
Hence, to be happy with a person, you must find out what makes him/her happy. Identify with, and help others find their happiness as much as possible. Look for other ways to make them happy and create the right environment for each of you to find your forms of human happiness. For me honestly “I believe nobody can find what I call ‘relationship happiness’ by being selfish”. What I am saying is that you cannot be truly happy with yourself by making others sad. That is why I also believe in resolving differences amicably. Thus, from a relationship point of view, I always try to make people happy through my own words and action. If I can’t do something or fulfill a promise I don’t like explaining it off, but I rather encourage. When am wrong I apologize. And one great statement I have learned in life which helps resolve issues is: “AM SORRY”. In fact, it keeps me from conflict. To say am sorry doesn’t kill you; it rather rekindles a relationship that is about to be damaged or a broken relationship.
Above all, I learn to be kind with my words. KIND WORDS are not expensive; they are the freest gifts you can give people to make them happy. Action speaks louder than words, that is true and I believe, but kind words ‘speak deeper’ than action. I hope you know of ‘fake gifts and ‘crocodile tears.’ Kind words are deep, and good people are consistent with kind words. Learn to make others happy and identify with their joyful moments with kind words, it will come back to you. Remember: “every good thing deserves the other, and kind words draw kind words.” Make people happy, and they will complement your happiness. Very important; never forget good people in your life; your family and friends; they complement your happy disposition a great deal.
In sum, never lose the God fact in your life; your greatest happiness comes from the word of God and your Creator; He knows what is best for you. Secondly, find your unique ways to make yourself happy and make effort to overcome your purported flaws. Finally, make others happy and your happiness will be preserved. So happy yourself and let what people do for you, or say to “happy you”, become complementary. Find ways to make yourself happy and always “Don’t worry bee happy” Hahaha! I wish you happiness and joyful moments this year.
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